Relationship Coaching & Divorce Support

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What if something as simple as asking the right questions could change everything?

Coaching is not the same as counseling or therapy. There are many great counselors and therapists, and I, Matthew Fray, am not one of them.

Coaching is not the act of analyzing problems and offering solutions, though we will no doubt analyze problems and—collaboratively—discover new ways of doing things and new possibilities that can improve ourselves and our relationships.

Coaching is about support, encouragement and companionship. A method of discovering more about yourself, your relationships, and your relationship patterns.

A coach is a resource. A support system. A trusted confidant. A friend.

Tomorrow CAN be better than today. Tomorrow, we can be more than we are today. That happens by choice. Having the support of others can help us make good choices. And that’s what coaches provide—support, motivation and encouragement.

And if you want, that’s what I’ll provide to you.

Nice Things Clients Say About Working with Me

I’ve had the honour of talking with Matthew for just over a month. I began our conversations broken, post-divorce, and completely unable to make sense of the pieces of life shattered around me. Matthew poses questions that cut straight to the heart of matters, which is already evident in his blog articles. Incredibly sensitive, but honest beyond fault, Matthew has helped me to navigate my way out of a darkness I wasn’t sure I could survive.

Thanks to Matt, I now carry with me two weapons of incredible wisdom: First, breathe. And second, we can do hard things.

I am forever grateful.  — Kirsty C., South Africa

The Programs

Marriage & Long-Term Relationship Coaching

Who It’s For

  • People struggling to connect with, understand, or communicate effectively with their partners. We feel the distance growing between us and the people we love. We feel the wheels coming off, and it sometimes feels as if the harder we try to make things better, our plans and conversations backfire, and everything seems to get worse. Everything makes sense in our own minds, but when we try to express it to our partners, it seems like they’re not hearing us. Like we’re speaking two different languages. When you work with me as your coach, we get intentional about personality types, about deciphering the words and actions of our spouse/romantic partners, and about finding new ways to communicate effectively and reduce instances of conflict within our homes and relationships.

What You Get

  • You and me, working together to find improvement opportunities, if not solutions, to your life’s most painful and frustrating relationship problems.
  • With luck, you will learn new things about yourself and about your spouse/romantic partner, develop more clarity about what she or he is asking for during your frustrating conversations and arguments, and emerge stronger and confident that you can navigate your relationship more effectively.
  • If you prefer a set schedule, we will schedule weekly or bi-weekly coaching calls for 30, 60, or 90 days (or whatever). But we know that life doesn’t always go according to plan. If you prefer a more fluid, flexible schedule where you request calls as more urgent, emotionally difficult issues arise, we can handle it that way.
  • In addition to our scheduled calls, clients have access to me in the event of—for lack of a better term—an emotional emergency, or a particularly difficult or stressful personal situation. If you feel alone or as if you don’t know who to talk to, I’ll make every effort to be there, and together we’ll get through whatever it is.

How It Works

  • You will decide whether you would prefer to talk by phone or by video conference (which would take place on the Zoom platform. You can create a free Zoom account here.)
  • I accept both PayPal and credit card payments (via an online invoice I will email upon request). Our calls will be scheduled after its corresponding invoice is processed.

How To Apply

  • Email me at MBTTTR@gmail.com with “Coaching Request” in the subject line.
  • I will send you a questionnaire within 24-48 business hours.
  • Please fill out the questionnaire and return it to schedule a short, introductory on-boarding call that we will use to collaboratively discuss whether my coaching support is really something you want, and whether it’s something that can truly provide value for you in a potentially difficult time. The purpose of the questionnaire is for you to explain your personal story in your own words, and to share with me what you hope to achieve from a coaching relationship.

Divorce & Divorce Recovery Coaching

Who It’s For

  • People going through divorce frequently say that it’s much more difficult than they’d imagined. And that’s because we never know what we don’t know. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, divorce is the #2 most stressful life event we can ever experience, second only to the death of a spouse. And that’s because divorce isn’t only something that affects us emotionally in the same way breaking up with our girlfriend or boyfriend might have felt in our youth. Divorce typically generates a dramatic change in our everyday lives. It usually involves moving to a new home, or losing your adult partner that was always there, providing companionship, conversation, financial support, parenting support, and the logistics of managing daily life and a household in an increasingly busy world. Divorce can affect our social networks, our work performance, our extended families, the time we have with our children, and sometimes the sense of control we used to feel regarding their health and well being. It can be a terrifying time, because sometimes we don’t even recognize ourselves anymore. I’ve lived that nightmare. And I want to help you get through it with as much comfort, courage and confidence as possible.

What You Get

  • You and me, working together to find improvement opportunities, if not solutions, to your life’s most painful and frustrating problems following divorce or a bad breakup.
  • With luck, you will learn new things about yourself and about your relationships past and present. You will develop more clarity about what you can do moving forward to feel like your old self again, and what you can do to make sure that any future romantic partners are a positive choice for you and any children you might have. Among our many goals will be for you to emerge with greater confidence and focus as you move forward on your life journey.
  • If you prefer a set schedule, we will schedule weekly or bi-weekly coaching calls for 30, 60, or 90 days (or whatever). But we know that life doesn’t always go according to plan. If you prefer a more fluid, flexible schedule where you request calls as more urgent, emotionally difficult issues arise, we can handle it that way.
  • In addition to our scheduled calls, clients have access to me in the event of—for lack of a better term—an emotional emergency, or a particularly difficult or stressful personal situation. If you feel alone or as if you don’t know who to talk to, I’ll make every effort to be there, and together we’ll get through whatever it is.

How It Works

  • You will decide whether you would prefer to talk by phone or by video conference (which would take place on the Zoom platform. You can create a free Zoom account here.)
  • We would schedule calls with whatever frequency and cadence works best for you.
  • I accept both PayPal and credit card payments (via an online invoice I will email upon request). Our calls will be scheduled after its corresponding invoice is processed.

How To Apply

  • Email me at MBTTTR@gmail.com with “Coaching Request” in the subject line.
  • I will send you a questionnaire within 24-48 business hours.
  • Please fill out the questionnaire and return it to schedule a short, introductory on-boarding call that we will use to collaboratively discuss whether my coaching support is really something you want, and whether it’s something that can truly provide value for you in a potentially difficult time. The purpose of the questionnaire is for you to explain your personal story in your own words, and to share with me what you hope to achieve from a coaching relationship.

2 thoughts on “Relationship Coaching & Divorce Support

  1. Margaret M Cavallo says:

    How much is each call? What prices do you charge?

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  2. Carla Costa says:

    Hi Matt,
    This article really helped me as a wife to be able to validate my feelings that I am not crazy bitch. That yes, my husband have issues to deal with.

    Like

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