Relationship Coaching & Divorce Support

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What if something as simple as asking the right questions could change everything?

Coaching is not the same as counseling or therapy. There are many great counselors and therapists, and I, Matthew Fray, am not one of them.

Coaching is not the act of analyzing problems and offering solutions, though we will no doubt analyze problems and—collaboratively—discover new ways of doing things and new possibilities that can improve ourselves and our relationships.

Coaching is about support, encouragement and companionship. A method of discovering more about yourself, your relationships, and your relationship patterns.

A coach is a resource. A support system. A trusted confidant. A friend.

Tomorrow CAN be better than today. Tomorrow, we can be more than we are today. That happens by choice. Having the support of others can help us make good choices. And that’s what coaches provide—support, motivation and encouragement.

And if you want, that’s what I’ll provide to you.

The Programs

Marriage & Long-Term Relationship Coaching

Who It’s For

  • People struggling to connect with or to communicate effectively with their partners. We feel the distance growing between us and the people we love. We feel the wheels coming off, and it sometimes feels as if the harder we try to make things better, our plans and conversations backfire, and everything seems to get worse. Everything makes sense in our own minds, but when we try to express it to our partners, it seems like they’re not hearing us. Like we’re speaking two different languages.

What You Get

  • A completely customized coaching program to help you navigate difficult relationship transitions in order to emerge with greater strength, confidence and clarity.
  • If you prefer a set schedule, we will schedule weekly or bi-weekly coaching calls for 30, 60, or 90 days (or whatever). But we know that life doesn’t always go according to plan. If you prefer a more fluid, flexible schedule where you request calls as more urgent, emotionally difficult issues arise, we can handle it that way.
  • In addition to our scheduled calls, clients will have access to me in the event of—for lack of a better term—an emotional emergency, or a particularly difficult or stressful personal situation. If you feel alone or as if you don’t know who to talk to, I’ll make every effort to be there, and together we’ll get through it.

How It Works

  • You will decide whether you would prefer to talk by phone or by video conference (which would take place on the Zoom platform. You can create a free Zoom account here.)
  • I will be using PayPal to process payments, and calls will be scheduled after its corresponding invoice is processed.

How To Apply

  • Email me at MBTTTR@gmail.com with “Coaching Request” in the subject line.
  • I will send you a questionnaire within 24-48 business hours.
  • Please fill out the questionnaire and return it to schedule a short, introductory on-boarding call that we will use to collaboratively discuss whether my coaching support is really something you want, and whether it’s something that can truly provide value for you in a potentially difficult time. The purpose of the questionnaire is for you to explain your personal story in your own words, and to share with me what you hope to achieve from a coaching relationship.

Divorce & Divorce Recovery Coaching

Who It’s For

  • People going through divorce frequently say that it’s much more difficult than they’d imagined. And that’s because we never know what we don’t know. According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, divorce is the #2 most stressful life event we can ever experience, second only to the death of a spouse. And that’s because divorce isn’t only something that affects us emotionally in the same way breaking up with our girlfriend or boyfriend might have felt in our youth. Divorce typically generates a dramatic change in our everyday lives. It usually involves moving to a new home, or losing your adult partner that was always there, providing companionship, conversation, financial support, parenting support, and the logistics of managing daily life and a household in an increasingly busy world. Divorce can affect our social networks, our work performance, our extended families, the time we have with our children, and sometimes the sense of control we used to feel regarding their health and well being. It can be a terrifying time, because sometimes we don’t even recognize ourselves anymore. I’ve lived that nightmare. And I want to help you get through it with as much comfort, courage and confidence as possible.

What You Get

  • A completely customized coaching program to help you navigate difficult relationship transitions in order to emerge with greater strength, confidence and clarity.
  • If you prefer a set schedule, we will schedule weekly or bi-weekly coaching calls for 30, 60, or 90 days (or whatever). But we know that life doesn’t always go according to plan. If you prefer a more fluid, flexible schedule where you request calls as more urgent, emotionally difficult issues arise, we can handle it that way.
  • In addition to our scheduled calls, clients will have access to me in the event of—for lack of a better term—an emotional emergency, or a particularly difficult or stressful personal situation. If you feel alone or as if you don’t know who to talk to, I’ll make every effort to be there, and together we’ll get through it.

How It Works

  • You will decide whether you would prefer to talk by phone or by video conference (which would take place on the Zoom platform. You can create a free Zoom account here.)
  • We would schedule calls with whatever frequency and cadence works best for you.
  • I will be using PayPal to process payments, and calls will be scheduled after its corresponding invoice is processed.

How To Apply

  • Email me at MBTTTR@gmail.com with “Coaching Request” in the subject line.
  • I will send you a questionnaire within 24-48 business hours.
  • Please fill out the questionnaire and return it to schedule a short, introductory on-boarding call that we will use to collaboratively discuss whether my coaching support is really something you want, and whether it’s something that can truly provide value for you in a potentially difficult time. The purpose of the questionnaire is for you to explain your personal story in your own words, and to share with me what you hope to achieve from a coaching relationship.
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